How to be an Excellent Submissive

Would you like to become a better submissive? In this episode I talk about four foundational ways you can improve in your submission, including: respect, acts of true service, obedience and gifts. I’ll also talk about a few things to avoid. Help yourself stand out from the crowd and really please your Dominant.

Listen to this episode and subscribe via iTunes.

To offer your gratitude for this guidance, please give this episode a positive rating and comment. To offer your gratitude via a gift, learn about what pleases me on my gifts page.

Kinky Q&A

In this episode I answer some audience questions about: what is my perspective on gender play, how can someone get involved in their local BDSM scene, how to introduce D/s (Dominance/submission) dynamics into a long-term relationship and a brief intro on how to be an excellent submissive (which will be thoroughly covered in my next episode).

Listen to this episode and subscribe via iTunes.

Noted websites in this episode (I am not affiliated with either site):
**IMPORTANT: make sure you do your own research to find the best fit for you, whether you’re looking for a therapist, counselor, pro Domme or play partner! These sites are merely suggestions.**
1. Kink Aware Professionals Directory:
2. Kinky social network:

Strap-On Play: Why I Love It

Strap-ons are a popular topic and activity, but some people may be unfamiliar with them (and unfortunately, some people have a stigma about using them). In this episode I introduce strap-on play – what is it, how do you do it, what do you need to do it – and tell you 10 reasons why I love wearing a strap-on.

Listen to my strap-on podcast episode here on iTunes.

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Why I Love Playing with Foot Fetishists

Zahvia - Kinky Foot Fetish TopThe topic of foot fetish is more popular than many people realize. I’m a foot fetish Top, which means I enjoy having my feet worshiped by my submissives and play partners. Why do I enjoy it? Here are my top 10 reasons for why I’m a foot fetish Top.

Listen to this podcast episode here on iTunes.

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Chastity Training: 10 Kinky Reasons for It

Chastity training is one of my favorite kinky topics. On today’s podcast episode, I talk about why I love putting my submissives into chastity. You might be surprised at some of my reasons!

Listen to this episode here on iTunes.

I also have an exciting announcement: I’ve just started a Patreon! Join me there for access to my kinky erotic audio stories and special rewards for my patrons. Visit here to learn more:

New Podcast Series

This is from my current newsletter. If you’d like to be on my mailing list, sign up here.

Hello my kinky lovelies! How are you? I hope this note finds you well and enjoying the new season upon us. Can you feel the first whispers of autumn in the air? I definitely can.

On a serious note, if you were anywhere near the recent hurricanes, I truly hope that you and your loved ones remained safe. <3

I want to thank those of you who sent such lovely feedback regarding my recent podcast episodes. It’s a beautiful thing to hear that my words have touched your lives. I am always happy to receive these notes, so please know that they are accepted with heartfelt gratitude.

So, now it’s time for my next podcast series…

PODCAST SERIES: 10 Things I Love About…
The next three episodes I have in store for you are about a few of my favorite topics: chastity, being a foot fetish Top and strap-ons. I’ll be telling you 10 things I love about each one. You’re in for some pretty sexy episodes!

Listen to my current episode on chastity via iTunes HERE

I’ll be posting my episodes on being a foot fetish Top and strap-ons this Friday night and Saturday night, respectively, so make sure to subscribe on iTunes!

ANNOUNCEMENT: I’ve Started a Patreon
I’d also like to formally announce my brand new Patreon!

What is Patreon, you may ask? It’s a platform I’m using to connect with my patrons; I offer you special rewards in turn for your patronage of my podcast and my upcoming kinky erotic audio stories. There is every level of patronage available, from very affordable to lavish. Sign up is easy and all of the rewards and practical details are explained upfront. I’ve been developing this project for some time, so I’m very excited to finally announce it!

My public podcast on iTunes will remain free, but if you decide to become my patron you’ll have access to things like my “too-hot-for-iTunes” erotic stories, phone and video chat sessions with me, custom kinky stories, access to my Snapchat, souvenirs of my fetish wear and more.

Patron rewards are granted on a monthly basis. You can sign up at any time, but if you’d like to get in on this first cycle, sign up before October 1st. To learn more, visit my Patreon page HERE

I’ll be spending the rest of this year primarily in Chicago. I may do brief trips out to San Francisco and New York City in October/November. Be in touch via my website if you’d like to book an appointment.

In the meantime my fellow kinkster, do take excellent care of yourself. I hope you savor all that this new season has to offer. Enjoy my new podcast episodes and if you join my Patreon, I’ll see you there very soon!

In Sweet Divine Kink,

How to Explore Feminization

10 steps on how to explore feminization and discover what you truly enjoy. In this podcast episode I focus on genuine femme exploration (not fetish). I am welcoming and affirming of people who are crossdressers, LGBTQ+ and/or questioning their identity.

Listen to this feminization podcast episode here on iTunes

For in-person or long distance femme guidance, visit my website


Encouragement & Sensual Body Exercise

How do you manage stress when it seems that everything around you is falling apart? It can be easy to shut off all your feelings and stay in your head. This episode is a reminder that you have a beautiful resource within you: your unique sensuality. Let’s explore it.

Listen here or via iTunes.

My BDSM Philosophy

Podcast episode: Many people have a misunderstanding about BDSM and assume it’s just whips, chains and heartlessness (or worse, get their information from mainstream media). They might also mistakenly assume all Dominants work the exactly same. Let me guide you through my philosophy and practice of BDSM as a Dominatrix – from the sexy and merciless aspects, to the nurturing and practical aspects.

Listen here or via my channel on iTunes.

Live Podcast Tonight & Tomorrow

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Hello my fellow kinkster,

Since this is my first newsletter, I should probably reintroduce myself to you. My name is Zahvia and I am a BDSM Dominant. If you subscribed a long time ago and wondered “why did I never receive a newsletter update?” – worry not, this is the first.

(Some of you may also remember me by my former name, Lexi Lipstick.)

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been feeling stressed about the ongoing horrific events in the U.S. Because of this, I’m feeling inspired to be vocal in the opposite direction and put out some positive, sexy energy into the world. I’ll be live broadcasting 3 new podcast episodes over tonight and tomorrow. Join me if you’d like to hear my thoughts on kink, encouragement, experience a sensual body exercise or listen to my guidance on feminization (see schedule below).

Admittedly, I also thought it’d be cool to do this around the eclipse because I’m woo like that.

Private Phone and Video Chat

I’m also offering private phone and video chat sessions this week. If you pre-book, you’ll receive a special rate. Reach out if you’d like to receive support, encouragement and/or enjoy some genuine kink play. Details can be found here.
Live Podcast Details

All you need to do to enjoy the podcast is visit the link below. This series is completely free. You don’t need to sign up. I know this is short notice, but I’ll be recording it, so it will stay available at the link below. This is a gift to you and anyone you’d like to share it with. If you’d like to offer something back in gratitude, I will happily receive it via my website, but there is no requirement. Please enjoy!
Click HERE to listen

**All times are Eastern Daylight Time**

Sunday, Aug. 20th  |  11:30p-12a
My BDSM Philosophy

Join me as talk about BDSM from my perspective – both the sexy aspects and the potential for deep life enhancement.

Monday, Aug. 21st  |  2:30p-3p
Eclipse Encouragement Talk and Sensual Body Exercise

Times have been difficult for many. Let me remind you how soothing it can feel to tap into your sensuality. I’ll be guiding you through a sensual exercise during the second half (not explicitly sexual, but probably NSFW).

Monday, Aug. 21st  |  9p-9:30p
How to Explore Feminization in 10 Steps
The art of being femme is a favorite topic of mine. I’m going to guide you in how to start and how to deepen your exploration of femme. *Note: this is open to people of every gender identity*

Talk to you soon! And remember, the episodes will stay up at this link if you can’t make the live broadcast.

In Sweet Divine Kink,